 I have nothing against homosexuals. People can love and live with whomever they want, in whatever arrangement they desire. And if Marriage was just “a contract between any two people”, I wouldn’t be against same-sex marriage. But Marriage doesn’t just affect the people getting married- it affects any Children who are brought in from a previous relationship/ adoption/ donor, or who may be adopted/ created in the future. All empirical evidence points to the fact that children of any arrangement that departs from the traditional family (mother, father, child(ren)), are disadvantaged- including children of divorce and donor conceived children. Children who are refused a family with a Mom and Dad to love and guide them are being denied the environment and tools they need to have the chance to grow up and be successful adults. Even the best childhood is no guarantee of a happy and successful life. A child with divorced parents, single-parents or a gay couple raising them will have an even tougher time making their way in the world. Gay Marriage Advocates are trying to advance the false idea that a child who doesn’t grow up with a Mom and Dad are not harmed in any way. Please read this heartbreaking article from '07 about a child from Guatemala who was adopted by two gay men: http://bit.ly/akHOu. When the little boy would ask for "mom", one of the gay parents would tell him, “If you had a mommy, then you wouldn't have two daddies. Is that what you want?” And the little boy would say, “No I want two daddies and a mommy.” Then the gay parent would say, "Well, there's not a mommy, you've got grandma, and granny and Aunt Jennifer.” And he'd say, “OK.” This is child abuse. Its bad enough for a child to grow up without one or both parents (due to poor planning, divorce or death(s)). But to intentionally create a situation where a child would be denied Mom and Dad, and then to Lie to the child and tell them there is something WRONG WITH THEM for wanting a Mom and Dad is Sick. When I think of all the poor little kids who just want a Mom and Dad, and are instead being used as pawns in the so-called “Gay Rights Movement”, I feel like I’m going to vomit. I am a child of parents who had a relationship that ultimately ended in divorce. Adults such as myself who didn’t have a Mom or Dad for part or all of their childhoods suffer from feelings of abandonment, low self-esteem and depression. Gay Marriage intentionally creates situations where children experience what I experienced, not to mention the pressure put on them to “legitimize” their parent’s relationship by acting like it doesn’t hurt or bother them that they don’t have a Mom or Dad. The child will internalize their feelings, distrust their own instincts, and pretend that nothing bothers them out of fear that it will ruin their family. Gay Marriage Advocates care more about the Feelings of Gays than the Well-Being of Children. It's Emotional Abuse to deny a Child a Mom and Dad. Gay Marriage not only condones the immoral practice of creating children who will not have a mother and father, but encourages it. For the record, I am opposed to Any situation where a Child is intentionally created where they won’t have a Mom and Dad (such as the “Octomom” situation.) Gay Marriage Advocates are some of the most narrow-minded, selfish and cruel people in the world, and they don’t even see it. Some have said to me, “Marriage is so screwed up nowadays anyway, people get married for money or for convenience, so why not just let the gays get married too?” The IRONY here is that they are DESTROYING Marriage in order to be part of it. They don’t care that Marriage as it currently exists must be destroyed in order for them to be part of it, and they don’t care about how it negatively affects the Children. Homosexual couples, by definition, cannot give a Child a Mother and Father. This is not discrimination. This is a fact of life. I believe gays should have “Civil Unions” so they have equal rights and benefits under the law as straight couples. But as far as Children are concerned, that is a job for heterosexual couples. Gay Marriage is wrong because it encourages the adoption/creation of children who will not have the chance to be raised by a Mom and Dad. And for this reason, I will fight it in any way I can. *I just wanted to add one thing because so many liberals keep saying to me, “A child doesn’t really need a Mom and Dad- what about children of divorce or single parents?” So to clarify: When I say a child "needs" a Mom and Dad, I am speaking of a deep, innate and visceral NEED or LONGING, the way a plant needs the sun. Having gay parents is like a plant growing under lamps. A lamp can give a plant what it needs to survive (not die), but it’s not the same as the sun at all. CommentsWed, 03 Jun 2009 16:05:56 i have been having this discussion with my friends for a while now. i don't agree with the way that this parent explained to the little boy about why he does not have a mother-- he just should have been honest. but i also don't agree with your assessment and judgment of these folks. Tue, 23 Jun 2009 14:09:13 Queenkaye- I don't have any "beef" with gay people. My "beef" is with any person (straight or gay) who believes that a child isn't harmed by Gay Marriage- which is an institution that would not only condone, but encourage situations where a child would be without a Mother and a Father. Like I said, I support Civil Unions because they will give gay couples the same legal rights and benefits as straight couples. No question that it is unjust that they don't have that option. But as the title of my blog indicates, marriage is not about individual rights - it's about children. It is amazing to me how people can say with a straight face that they don't think a child needs a Mom and Dad, and that any other arrangement isn't less than ideal. I can't argue with that kind of cluelessness. It's beyond my ability to reach those who are that divorced from common sense and reality. Comments will be queued for approval before being posted. Leave a Reply | ArchivesMay 2009 Categories |
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